All theories aside, a simple truth – a basic fact – frames everything: boys are men in the making. Anyway you cut it, the facts are the facts. Patriarchy may be dead, but right now, the ‘boy code” (Real Boys: Rescuing Our Boys from the Myths of Boyhood Pollack, 1999) rules the roost rushing the boys along the river into “guy code” (Guyland: The Perilous World Where Boys Become Men Kimmel, 2009) [my view is they do not become men] and over the falls into the still pool of male unhappiness (I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression and The Irritable Male Syndrome: Understanding the 4 Key Causes of Depression and Aggression Diamond, 2005). The boys deserve a better shot at manhood. We can give it to them. Collectively, we can “kick some serious butt” and shatter the boy code. You game?
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Am I game? And how!
Here in South Africa I’ve been asked to speak at a Men in the Making workshop — it’s a national initiative undertaken by a local company.
Fabulous. Love to know more. Update please.